Living with a drama queen isn’t easy! I’ve always heard about the ‘terrible twos’ and how hard they are on everyone. What no one mentioned to me were the ‘trying threes’, which we are smack in the middle of right now. My threenager (three + teenager and oh so true) is making me absolutely crazy on a daily basis with her crying over everything, not listening and throwing fits over nothing at all.
Thankfully, I got a reality check from a good friend of mine yesterday. We were packing the kids up in our respective vehicles and A was crying, as usual; I think that she banged her knee when she climbed into her carseat. I mentioned how difficult I was finding this phase because A needs comfort when she’s upset and I want to help her, but I don’t want to be reinforcing the negative (aka drama queen) behaviour of crying and flailing and generally massively overreacting to the situation.
My friend pointed out to me that while the drama was annoying, A’s sensitive nature is also why she’s so sweet to her sister and friends, why she’s always wanting to hold hands and dance, and why she’s the ‘social director’ amongst our little group. (I joke that she’s going to grow up to be a cruise social director because she’s usually talking to everyone, making sure all of the other kids are having fun, and making sure everyone has a snack.) I hadn’t thought about it that way and I was glad to get some much-needed perspective on a trying developmental phase!
Of course, now my challenge is to help her learn to manage the harder parts of life (disappointment, injuries – small or big, hearing ‘no’) without resorting to the drama while keeping the sweetness intact. Any tips for living with a drama queen?
* all pictures taken by the amazing Elizabeth Fulton Photography *